SORRY. IN MOMS 98TH BIRTHDAY SPECIAL BLOG TODAY I PUT IN THE WRONG ACCESS ADDRESS SO YOU CAN RECEIVE MORE INFORMATION ON HER...

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REMEMBER ITS ALL 'DOTS'.  

AGAIN THANK YOU TO ALL WHO HAVE SENT HER CARDS...I HOPE YOU GO TO THE WEBSITE AND THEN FORWARD TO ANY OF YOUR FRIENDS WHO ARE CARING FOR ELDERLY PARENTS...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOM.  HAPPY 98TH BIRTHDAY MOM!!!!!

MUCH HAS TRANSPIRED SINCE I LAST UPDATED MOMS BLOG...ITS BECOME A SAD JOURNEY...FOR US...MOM DOESN'T HAVE A CLUE.  SAYS ' I DON'T UNDERSTAND, I WALKED YESTERDAY!!  WATCHING A SOUL..SLOWLY RETURN TO THEIR NATURAL AND LOVED PLACE...IS REWARDING, SPIRITUAL AND LOVING..AS WELL AS...SAD.

 WELL THIS PICTURE WAS TAKEN ABOUT 6 MONTHS AGO...SHE GOT HER HAIR DONE...SHE LOVES TO HELP MAKE PUDDING. MOM STILL IS ALIVE IN THE KITCHEN!!! EVEN JUST EMPTYING THE SILVERWARE..WHICH TAKES HER A WHILE..TRYING TO FIGURE WHERE THE FORK GOES ...IS STILL SOMETHING SHE ENJOYS.

 TAKING HER OUT..IS VERY VERY DIFFICULT.  SHE IS DEAD WEIGHT..SO GETTING HER IN A CAR AND OUT..PLUS IF SHE HAS TO GO POTTY ETC...BUT ON THIS DAY WE TOOK HER TO MY HAIRDRESSER RATHER THEN PUSH HER IN THE WHEELCHAIR TO THE CORNER..AND SHE LOVED IT  I THINK A WOMEN NEVER TIRES OF HAVING HER HAIR DONE..MOM MUST HAVE REALIZED WHAT WAS HAPPENING BECAUSE SHE WAS CALM...HAPPY...AND LOVED HAVING THEM WASH IT.  KEPT SAYING ' OH THIS FEELS SO GOOD.

 WE TRY TO SAY ' SMILE' BUT FOR SOME REASON SHE DOESN'T GET IT.  SHE ALSO DOESN'T REALIZE WHEN SHE HAS EATEN.  SHE EATS EVERYTHING..BUT LATER WILL SAY ' NO ONE FEEDS ME'.  THIS SHIRT SHE HAS ON I PURCHASED FOR HER PROBABLY 10 YEARS OR MORE..AGO ..ALONG WITH SLACKS TO MATCH.  WE DRESS HER LIKE YOU ARE DRESSING A DOLL EVERY MORNING...EVEN THE FLOWER IN HER HAIR!

 THIS IS HER NEW GREEN OUTFIT.  AND CHECK OUT THOSE SOCKS!!!!  SHE WEARS LONG SOCKS TO PROTECT HER ARTERIES IN HER LEGS.  SHE HAS ABOUT 10 PAIR AND EACH IS SOOOO CUTE.  I LOVE PICKING OUT THE WILDEST SOCKS!!  FOR HALLOWEEN SHE HAS ORANGE AND BLACK..AND OF COURSE SHE IS HOLDING PUPPY.  THIS IS JUST A STUFFED DOG..SMALL..HOSPICE GAVE HER ABOUT A YEAR AGO AND SHE HAS GROWN ATTACHED TO HIM.

 MOM AND PUPPY IN BED...SHE TALKS TO HIM.  ALONG WITH ALL HER ' FRIENDS?"
MOM TALKS TALKS TALKS ALL DAY. SHE IS VERY FUNNY SINCE NOTHING COMES OUT JUST RIGHT. I ASKED HER THE OTHER NIGHT ' WHERE IS PUPPY?  SHE SAYS WELL I PUT HIM ON THE EMPLOYMENT LIST!!!!  I TRY TO WRITE DOWN ALL THESE FUNNIES..AND I TAKE MANY MANY VIDEO'S WITH MY IPHONE...

HOSPICE CALLS HER SWEET MOLLIE.  SHE IS.  NOW WITH HARDLY ANY MIND SHE IS ONLY KNOWS LOVE.  ITS A GREAT PLACE TO BE..AND TO BE WITH.  IN MOLLIE'S MIND EVERYTHING IS BEAUTIFUL.  SHE SITS AT THE FRONT TABLE EVERY MORNING AND LOOKS OUT THE WINDOW AND SEES THE BIRDS AND TREES AND SAYS  ' JUDY ISN'T EVERYTHING BEAUTIFUL.   SHE STILL CALLS MY NAME, BUT MANY MANY TIMES CALLS ME EDITH..OR ' HER MOM'...SOME TIMES SHE WILL SAY
 I DON'T KNOW WHO YOU ARE, BUT I KNOW YOUR A SWEETIE PIE".

 SO TODAY IS MOMS BIRTHDAY.  WE HUNG THE SIGN ON THE FRONT GATE.  ALL THE NEIGHBORS KNOW HER..THEY LOVE TO STOP AND TALK TO HER BECAUSE SHE ONLY SAYS NICE THINGS..AND GETS EVEN THAT CONFUSED.  WILL SAY ' WELL I FLEW TO CHICAGO TODAY AND THEN WALKED TO CHURCH SO I AM VERY TIRED..BUT I AM SO GLAD TO MEET YOU".  EVEN THO SHE HAS MET THEM SO MANY TIMES...EVERYONE LOVES MOLLIE

AND..WE CAN'T FORGET THE 2 PEOPLE THAT HELP MAKE MOLLIES' WORLD WONDERFUL.  FLAPJACK AND JOHN.  MOM WILL SAY ' JUDY THERE IS A STRANGE MAN IN THE HOUSE'.  BUT JOHN LOVES TALKING TO MOM.  THE OTHER DAY HE ASKED HER WHAT HER CHILDRENS NAMES WERE..AND NOT ONLY DID SHE KNOW THEM...HE ASKED HER TO SPELL THEM..AND SHE DID EACH PERFECT!!!

SO HAPPY 98TH MOM.  THIS HAS BEEN A JOURNEY.  MY LIFE IS NOT THE SAME..NOR WILL IT EVER BE THE SAME...I HAVE BEEN BLESSED TO LEARN ABOUT REAL LOVE..HOW TO CARE FOR SOMEONE WHO KNOWS NOTHING AND NEEDS EVERYTHING..AND I LOOK FORWARD TO THE DAY YOU AND DAD ARE TOGETHER..WITH NO CHILDREN..NO WORRIES..JUST THE LOVE YOU FIRST KNEW..YOU BOTH DESERVE IT.
LOVE FROM JUDY, JOHN, JOHNNY, DANNY, GERI, NATHANIEL..NIKOLAI AND BRANDON.....AND I KNOW..FROM KENNY AND CAROLYN..NANCY, LINDA, SUSAN AND JANET...AND I WOULD LIKE TO THANK EACH OF YOU FOR ALL THE CARDS YOU HAVE SENT MOM...SHE DOES READ THEM..SHE LOOKS AT THEM..SHE KNOWS ' OH THIS IS FOR ME"...!!!

I WILL TRY TO KEEP UP THE BLOG.  YOU CAN ALWAYS GO TO..dementiahoffart.blogspot.com IF YOU WANT TO FORWARD THIS TO SOMEONE.  IF YOU CAN'T GET IT..LET ME KNOW..I WILL FIGURE OUT WHY.
LOVE.

I AM SORRY I HAVE NOT UPDATED YOU MORE ON MOM...I AM NOT SURE IF THESE PICTURES ARE FAIR TO HER...SEEING HER AS SHE HAS AGED. I TRIED TO FIND SOME NICE ONES..BUT LETS FACE IT..MOM IS NOW 97 AND 1/2...IS IN GOOD HEALTH..EXCEPT...FOR HER MEMORY...AND LETS BE GLAD SHE DOESN'T KNOW HOW SHE HAS AGED..BUT SHE IS STILL BEAUTIFUL IN OUR EYES!

 HERE IS MOM IN HER BIG WHITE HAT ON HER BIRTHDAY AT GERI'S...

 AND THEN WE TOOK A PICTURE OF ALL THE ' GIRLS'...GERI'S MOM IS IN THE MIDDLE..I ALWAYS ENJOY SEEING "GEORGIE'...SUCH A GRACEFUL WOMAN.

 ONE OF MY FAVORITES.  I PUT IN A LILY POND WITH AN ANGEL FOR MOM TO SIT AND WATCH..AND THIS IS MOM PUTTING WATER IN THE POND...SUCH WONDERFUL DAYS TOGETHER

 BUT HERE IS MOM FALLING ASLEEP IN HER CEREAL...FOR THE LIFE OF ME I COULD NOT GET HER TO LOOK UP...BUT DOES SHE EAT?  OH YEAH!!!! MOM EATS MOST ANYTHING..ESPECIALLY ICE CREAM

 HER IS MOM PEDALING IN HER SMART LOOKING SOCKS.  HOSPICE SAYS MOST CHILDREN CARING FOR AN ELDERLY PARENT WILL LET THEM STAY IN BED ALL DAY..NOT HERE.  SHE IS UP BY 10:30..AND SHE CAN PEDAL UP TO 100..AND COUNT!!!
THAT SAID....THIS PICTURE WAS TAKEN AROUND 4 MONTHS AGO AND NOW ITS HARD TO GET HER TO PEDAL...BUT SHE STILL CAN..SHE JUST SAYS ' I DONT' WANT TO AND I DONT' HAVE TO DO ANYTHING I DONT' WANT TO DO'.   THOSE ARE HER EXACT WORDS.!

 WHEN WE GET OUR 5 DAYS EACH MONTH FROM HOSPICE ..WHERE WE CAN SEND MOM TO A HOME ...WE ARE CHOOSEY.   THIS IS THE ONLY PLACE WE WILL SEND HER...YOU CAN SEE ITS NOT JUST A 'HOME'.  ITS GORGEOUS.   AND HERE IS MOM GETTING HER HAIR DONE THERE......WE DON'T USE OUR 5 DAYS EVERY MONTH BECAUSE SHE CAN ONLY GO HERE IF THERE IS AN OPENING..NO OPENING..MOM STAYS HOME.

 JOHN SAYS HE WOULD LOVE TO STAY HERE WHEN HE GETS OLDER..THE ROOMS ARE HUGH..TV IN EVERY ONE...LARGE ISLES...MARBLE FLOORS...ITS ONLY ABOUT 8K A MONTH..OR MORE.  BUT I TRUST THIS PLACE..SO THIS IS ONLY PLACE MOM GOES...OR ELSE SHE IS AT HOME.

 THIS IS A CUTE..AND SAD PICTURE.  SAD BECAUSE..MOM NOW HAS FRIENDS..AND SHE TALK TO THEM ALL DAY!  SO ON THIS DAY...SOMEONE ..OF HER FRIENDS..HAD A BLUE HAT...SO MOM WANTED A BLUE HAT.  AND NO MATTER HOW WE TRIED TO GET HER TO THINK OF SOMETHING ELSE..SHE WANTED A BLUE HAT.  SO I FOUND ONE..I PUT IT ON HER..AND IMMEDIATELY..SHE WAS QUIET..JUST ENJOYING HER BLUE HAT.

 MEDICARE GIVES ME 40 HOURS A WEEK OF HELP..AND THIS IS LOIS.  LOIS HAS BEEN MOMS CAREGIVER FOR OVER 2 YEARS.  SHE COMES EACH MORNING AND GETS MOM UP..WASHES HERE ETC..AND COME BACK AT 6 TO PLAY CARDS WITH MOM AND PUT HER TO BED...LOIS IS 80!!!

 SO NOW WE ARE GETTING TO WHERE YOU CAN SEE HOW MOM HAS AGED SINCE HER BIRTHDAY..HERE SHE HAS NO TEETH.  WHEN SHE TAKES HER TEETH OUT...SHE AGES 10 YEARS!!  I AM NOT KIDDING.  SO WHY DOES SHE TAKE THEM OUT?  SHE WILL SAY ' THEY ARE NOT MINE'.  SO WE JUST GIVE HER SOFT FOODS UNTIL SHE PUTS THEM BACK IN......AT 97 MOM IS STILL IN CONTROL!!!!

AND LOEKE.  YOU HAVE SEEN PICTURES OF LOEKE BEFORE.  MOMS CAT.  LOEKE IS ABOUT 14 YEARS OLD..SO AS OLD AS MOM.  SHE WILL NOT LEAVE MOMS SIDE WHEN MOM IS IN BED...HER PAW IS SOMEWHERE ALWAYS ON MOM.  DURING THE DAY SHE STAYS IN MOMS ROOM..JUST WAITING FOR HER TO RETURN...ITS PURRRRRRRR LOVE!!!!

SO I PROMISE TO KEEP UP THIS BLOG MORE OFTEN...AS I WRITE THIS MOM IS HERE IN THE OFFICE WITH ME...TELLING ME SHE WANTS TO GO HOME..WE TELL HER SHE IS HOME..BUT SHE KEEPS SAYS ' I WANT TO GO HOME'  OR SHE WILL SAY ' RUDY COME AND GET ME'.   THE BEST PART IS SHE DOESN'T REALLY KNOW WHERE SHE CAME FROM...THE ONLY GOOD THING ABOUT ALZHEIMERS OR DEMENTIA...I WOULD HATE FOR HER TO KNOW............
THANKS FOR CARING ABOUT MOM!!